I was texting a friend who asked me my plans for the rest of my day after grabbing a quick coffee with me for lunch.
I replied, “Work, study, and then I have a therapy session later on.”
“What’s wrong with you?”, they replied.
On that day, nothing in particular was “wrong”, but it made me realize there are many misconceptions of what counseling is for.
First of all, counseling isn’t just about something being wrong with you. In the beginning, I seeked counseling because I had anxiety about my future, I struggled with my self-esteem, and I was having a very hard time letting go of a relationship. The first day of counseling was just a simple assessment of myself and what I wanted to get out of it. After that, it was simply just talking to someone about how I was feeling or what I’ve been thinking. After going to counseling for 3 months, I’ve never felt better and most of all I feel more in control. Some days at counseling were better than others, but I always left the session with a new personal goal for the next session.
Counseling provides a professional person who is trained to be beside you, listen to you, support you, and also to challenge you when pivotal moments may arise in your life. They will not give you advice on what to do in obstacles you face, but they will help guide you in areas you want to improve in your life. Though the obstacles I faced were and are not still not completely resolved, I’ve made several strides within myself since going to counseling.
I’ve encouraged many of my friends to seek counseling and though it was like pulling teeth at first –they finally went. I’ve heard great stories on how much it helped them with many abstract feelings and how to deal with them concretely.
Here are some other reasons people seek counseling:
Grief & Loss
Work-Life balance/stress reduction
Peer relationship struggles
Before the year ends and you’re thinking about to scribbling that “New Years Resolutions” down – I want to encourage you to seek counseling.